Yes, I know not “officially” a year, as Devon also lovingly reminded me last night since “Thanksgiving’s date usually changes from year to year.”
Thanks, mood killer.
So, TECHNICALLY, tomorrow is the one year “anniversary” of our engagement since Thanksgiving was the 24th last year. But ya know, what I’m still saying it’s today. It also means that we are (just about) exactly 7 months away from our wedding!
I cannot believe it’s been a year that we’ve been engaged and I can’t believe our wedding is in 7 months and that this time next year we’ll be celebrating our first holidays as a married couple. It is mind-boggling to me and I can’t imagine being on this ride with anyone else.
I was having lunch with my co-workers yesterday and we realized that Thanksgiving is basically about 2 weeks away.
That seems so crazy.
That means Christmas is coming, our friend’s wedding is coming, Thanksgiving plans need to be figured out, shopping will need to be done.
On top of it, Thanksgiving will mark a year that Devon and I have been engaged. It seems so weird that it’s been that long already. People told me it was going to go quickly and while I believed them, I didn’t fully either.
Like, once the holidays are over we’re in full wedding planning mode until June and I know it’s going to absolutely fly by, even moreso than the past year has.
But this time next year, we’ll be getting ready to celebrate our first holidays as a married couple.
That’s INSANE to me!
I’m trying to not think that far ahead because it’s super overwhelming, so I’m trying to focus on the next few weeks, so that I don’t completely lose my mind.
The main thing stressing me out this year is Christmas shopping. Normally I’ve done a lot of it by now, so I’m not really worried about it. This year, I have literally done nothing. Nothing. For anyone.
Please tell me I’m not the only one running around like a chicken with its head cut off this year?
If you’ve been following me on Instagram you’ll know that I actually FINALLY went to the doctor about my stomach issues that I’ve had for at least a good six month now.
I take probiotics regularly and while they help considerably, there are still moments of annoyance where my stomach has all sorts of attractive noises coming out of it. It’s a little embarrassing to have a ton of gurgling when you’re sitting across the table from your student and her parents talking about her grades and issues in classes.
So, I saw my doctor two weeks ago (at like 7:00pm thankfully she does a late evening once a week since I work super far away from her office now), She listened to some of the rumbling; partially with her stethoscope and partially from across the room because it’s just THAT loud. She’s like, “yeah….that seems like it’s probably pretty uncomfortable.”
I just need Morgan Freeman to narrate my whole life. All he has to do is call me and I will set up everything!
My 30th year has been….interesting to say the least. There have been a lot of odd moments…. a lot of trying moments, a lot of stress, some moments that were utterly depressing.
But there have also been some really great moments. And since I have a tendency to be kind of (read: very) pessimistic, some of those great moments get overshadowed by the stressful and depressing moments.
So, to celebrate my birthday I’ve decided to share 5 of the best moments of my 30th year and not dwell on the crappy things.
5. My New Car! I realize that probably sounds incredibly superficial, but I spent the better part of four years in two cars: one of which I just needed and one of which I hated after awhile. The fact that I finally have a car that is not only spacious and reliable, but that I love is something that I am really happy about. I’ll have this car for years, it’ll hold car seats one day; so yeah this is one of the things that made me happy this year.
4. Our final graduating class: Yes, this had some sadness with it. Our last graduation ceremony was filled with tears and emotions, but there were two amazing moments for me. The first was the military surprise for our salutatorian. I’ve never seen one in person and may never again, but to see her Dad appear from backstage with her diploma in hand when she thought he wasn’t going to make it home was one of the best things I’ve ever seen in my life and I will never forget that moment with her. That and seeing these young women that I’ve known for so long graduate and ready to move on to the next chapter was just a joy for me; even amidst the tears and emotions, I’m so happy I got to see these young women grow and I am extremely proud of all of them.
3. Deepening friendships. As hard as this year was, I am extremely grateful for my friends who have been amazingly supportive. I’m also really grateful for the co-workers that have become friends this year. As a group, we had to deal with a lot of hard situations (most notably our school closing) together and it drew a lot of us closer together. You noticed who really had your back and who was willing to be there for you when you needed them. One of these people, my friend Tiffani, was already a good friend of mine, but she actually started working at my school this past year (so she’d only been a Keough teacher for two months before hearing about the closing) so we got to spend a lot of time together (pretty much every single day) and through she became very special to me, so special that she’s one of my bridesmaids:
I just love and appreciate her so much; she’s been an absolutely amazing friend to me and I hope I’m as good of one to her.
2. My new job! Obviously. I think I’ve gone on and on about this one recently, so I’m not going to gush too much about it here, but I’m so excited to have such a great place to go starting next week. I actually just got our schedule for orientations and holy crap I’m going to be busy the next couple weeks, but it’s all good. I look forward to many years at my new school.
1. We’re Engaged! To no one’s surprise this is my favorite moment of the year. It’s pretty hard to top this one for anything. Probably the next thing that will “top” it will be our wedding. It was so simple; not a huge to-do which so many engagements are these days, and it was absolutely perfect. I still occasionally just look at my ring and love that it’s there and just love that it was given to me by my best friend. I can’t wait to go into the next chapter of our lives together.
So, this may have been a pretty trying year in many ways; there have also been quite a few good things that have happened that have tried to balance out the crappy stuff.
Here is hoping that the 31st year has even more good than bad.
As I mentioned last week, I accepted a Counselor position for the next school year.
With my beloved school closing, life has been pretty up in the air, which has been unbelievably uncomfortable for me. If you’ve ever lost your job or been laid off, you probably understand the feeling all too well. It’s scary not knowing what is going to happen or whether or not you’re going to be able to support your home/family.
That pretty much consumed the majority of my thoughts the past few months.
Some people would probably say I was lucky to have as much notice as I did about the school closing. In case you missed it previously, we learned our school was closing in October, so we had about 8 months before the end of the year, which should have been “plenty of time”.
For some of the faculty, it was; for those of us who have a fewer available positions, it’s not necessarily plenty of time. For school counselors, especially in Maryland, openings are pretty infrequent and when there is an opening, you’re usually one of at least 200 applicants.
So the pool is huge and the opportunities are few.